The first time a mentor, who I trusted, said: “you can never really trust anyone,” I felt disappointment and resistance. I’ve often found that when something is true, my mind initially resists it, so I opened my heart to listen.

Sometimes when a truth hits your heart, an illusion has to die first. When what you believe is called into question, it can feel as though your identity is being attacked, and in a way, this makes sense. Isn’t your identity made up of your beliefs?

In my willingness to let my belief go, I wanted to know the truth: If I can’t trust another, why not? And what does that mean then to trust life and myself?

Simply: trust begins with your heart above all else. You, your heart, and life are not separate. True safety, security, and trust comes from the awareness that all things come from the same place: life itself, and that you are not separate from life.

In acting on the feeling that moves you in your heart, the one that is not contained by ego, judgments, beliefs, identities, or thoughts, you take a journey of knowing yourself beyond thought, judgment, and ego, which is to say, aliveness itself: life.

If you knew that you, your heart and life were one, what circumstances would you not trust? Developing trust for life requires you to ask your own heart—the part of you that’s one with life—what you can realize from your experiences.

Trusting that life gives you experiences with purpose does not mean that you can trust individual people to their words, or actions, or that you let people walk all over you.

Trusting in your heart is to be from a place of power—from love—which is unconditional to the moment. To act on your heart may give another person an experience that’s positive or it may be negative, but you are the one living with your own heart for the rest of your life—what relationship is most important?

Could you really trust anyone or anything that is outside of your own heart and still know that your heart is the one true power you have? What if your intuition tells you that someone who you want to trust, or who you think you “should” trust (according to judgment) isn’t being honest? Do you trust that person because you have decided that trust is a worthy quality? Or do you trust your inner wisdom?

And what if your greatest life lesson comes from someone you want to trust most? If your greatest life lesson is non-judgment, then I imagine–and have experienced how–many life lessons will come through those you trust most, so that you know that trust of the heart is the only trust there can ever truly be.

If you’re an actress in a theatre play, and there is a character who plays a particular role, say of being untrustworthy in the play, would you trust that character? No. They are untrustworthy. When you walk off the stage when the play is done, would you take that character’s role personally and punch the actor in the face? Would you stop doing what you love as an actress because the role in the script lacks trust? Or would you trust that the acts of the play are as they are meant to be experienced?

There will be times when another person disappoints you with trust—in your life play—or does not keep to their word. That doesn’t make them bad. That doesn’t make them anything. That is the role they are playing for you. Question is, what can you learn—what is life’s purpose for giving you that experience? Is it so you learn to trust your self and your heart more? Is it the result of putting them on a pedestal and needing to see they are no better than you? What’s the life lesson?

Ask yourself: Would you depend on another if you knew it meant that you would forsake your own power? Would you put trust into another if you knew it meant you would betray your own heart?

True trust means not to trust anyone in their words, only your feeling at heart. Trust is not to trust one person, but their role for the lesson that life is showing you. You trust what moves through your own heart. You trust what moves through the hearts of the others.

When you trust in no one but life itself, it is then that you trust in everyone, for the same life within you is the same life that is within them. I believe it is the indian saying of Namaste that translated means, “The one in me, sees the one in you.”

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