“This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.” ~ Rumi
Resistance can be one of the most difficult experiences to face because it’s faceless. It can feel like a heaviness or lack of space in the body. I’m not sure the label of “emotion” truly fits. It’s just resistance. Resistance to what? Resistance to what is, or what will be, or what was.
It’s been my experience in myself, and in working with others, where I see a lot of resistance to life changes. Then I’ve seen the resistance to how one feels about life changes, or lack of the change desired. Finally, I have simply seen resistance. It may be connected to nothing at all. Sometimes it can feel as if there is no reason for the resistance, especially when it’s not a reaction, or it’s not ego protecting you from experiencing an emotion. When you are open, but there is resistance, you must simply be with the resistance.
Be with the resistance until it melts itself. Have no resistance to your resistance. But ask yourself, what choices can I make in my life to bring me deeper back to the flow of where life is leading me? And… am I truly present right now?
THE GUEST HOUSE
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.
Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
— Jelaluddin Rumi,
translation by Coleman Barks (copywrite etc)